I'm so mad....
I’m so mad….. really really mad….. mad at you…. ya… is U…. YYM. You told me every Friday nite you will be going out with your friends for a drink and came back late night, I din say a word. Every Saturday, my job routine is to sent Sebastian to class then went to market and Sidney will tag along, so I will carry Sidney and Sebastian will hold my hand at the market coz I did not bring maid along, I din complain. You… what you do… you sleep till late noon, wake up praying and eating…. then you complain I did not take care of the kids and just in front of my laptop doing nothing. So, tell me what u want me to do… sit here 24hrs looking at the kids…. then u better send me to Tg. Rambutan. On weekend, when I tell u we want to go shopping, then u will give me that kind of face, as if I everyday asking you go shopping. Sometimes, I think back…. am I a good wife, if not why u complaining about me? Am I a good mother, if not why the kids always not listen to me?
Tell me… how to become a perfect wife and mommy, I really dunno……
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Oh what a co-incidence, my hubby also name 'YM' wor! Calm down ok Fiona, sometimes man is like that one. Try to ask him or clarify if u think it's necessary.
Dora:)
*hugz*
it's just one of those lousy days when harsh words are spoken out. have a nice talk with him when both of u are cool down.
hope you r feeling better after ranting out here, and look forward to you long break! :)
Almost thought that you was mad at me until I read further on.
Does your husband read your blog anyways?
I think the best is to communicate and express your feelings with your husband.
If he don't realize that your doing your best but need a couple of hour in a day to sit back and use the laptop, I got nothing to say about what kind of husband he is. :P
aiyo...cool down, cool down...just call me and lets go yumcha...throw back everything to yur hb by yur sudden disappearance..hehe...
Aiyo, marriage is like that one-lah. So, relax. My husband also likes to think that I love the computer more than anything else sometimes, not only yours!
I tell yo ah-my hubby use to go out at least twice a week and come home in the middle of the night..and sometime till morning!That's enough to me too!About shopping he never come with me.I think that's good about migrating here.Cool down.Be smart when dealing this to him.Sometimes we as a wife have to tell our hubby our feeling.Don't keep it yourself."Hug""Hug"
Are you feeling better now? *smile* I hope you're feeling better..... *hug*
You may try reasonning with ur hubby. Luckily my hubby is supportive and even breakfast for us....hehehe
mans like that one lah like my hubby also doesn't like shopping but and do nothing at home..like my hubby can read the newspaper the whole day hah sometimes i get mad also wat to do? just be patient lor..
*hug*...col down n dont get mad, old faster. most men are like that n not only ur hubby..kids also naughty n dont listen to us most of the time. U already is a good wife n mother. one day ur hub will truly understand..be patient!!!
They always have something to complaint...after we try to do the best of the best...they don't appreciate one..I'm mute on his word liow...sometime too "ko fan"..i just do whatever I can..I'm not 100%...
I used to be angry and keep it in heart...but since after he always like that..I just don't care and my heart no rooms to cares those small little matters..."tai hoi tit" lorr..
Fiona try to talk to him in peace. Tell him your feeling and what you expected from him. Mad will get old faster, so cool down. :)
you are not alone, friend.
my husband never go shoppin with me too, and never does the housework or take care of the kid. but what to do, pure chinapek breed all like that one.
:hug hug:: cool it babe..
dora: oohh izzit... wat coincidence, luckily not same man... LOL!! just kidding!
ling: feeling much more better after ranting out.... thx! *hug back*
ilovepearly: how dare i scold u.. later u din come back 2 my blog leh... kekekeke! he have my blog add but dunno whether he did pop in or not... but at least the whole wide world know about this arr.... *evil laugh*, juz kidding
chinnee: tat's good idea... ok next time will drive to sg. long n look 4 u.... aheemm... got place for me to sleep arr.. incase i runaway fr house... *big grin*
tot'smom: gimme five.... i think i love computers now than him... LOL!!
marcia: i tell him many times edi, results still d same.... at least your hubby willing to migrate, my chinapek hubby won't be migrating one.... so no hope!! :(
bigpumpkin: *hug back* much... much.. better now :D
delittleones: try my best lor.... n u r lucky to hv such a supportive hubby :)
hazel: banyak susah hor... nvm next time go shopping together.. let the man stay at home reading paper till they 'fatt mou' LOL!!
shirley: yalor... y wanna so 'kei hei'... tonite go back put on face mask first or else the wrinkles pop out oledi :)
judy: true... whatever happen now.. i don't care anymore.. just do my best!
vicky: the results still the same.... got what i mean! :P
leena: yup!! really chinapek thinking... must take time 2 brainwash him kau kau.... :D
i am mad at my hubby too! he loves the computer more than me!!! all day and all night and all morning play his online game!
he will only budge when i show tantrum! haha
my dear,
in your kids' eyes, you are already the PERFECT mummy.
and i am sure, you are a PERFECT wife in your hubby's eyes too, just that sometimes, they conveniently turned blind towards our effort into everything!
hoping you are feeling much better now ya .. *lots of hugs* it sure is tough being a working mum and you are doing great... the kids can see that you are more hardworking than their daddy so you will win :-)
all the man is same la!!!
r u ok already, can u do this tag
http://littlepaces.com/?p=525
aiyo dun be like that. i'm sure the kids feel that you're the best mommy one could ever have. cheer up.
bw, i got that book ... good book for temper tantrum kids.
sorry to hear about this :( Men are like that lah. Calm down and hang in there :D
Oh, Fiona, how are feeling now? DOn't think you are a bad mom and wife. Don't EVER think that. You are great and it's just that your hubby takes for granted that you MUST take care of the kids. You should talk to him calmly and tell him what you always do with the kids and ask him what he wants out of you.
I kena once from my hubby and when I talk to him, he begin to see the whole picture and oppologize for the wrong words he had used.
As for the kids, don't worry too much. I think everyone of us are experiencing that and I know how frustrating and how depressed one could feel when your kids don't listen. Just try your very best and be patient. Results won't show immediately. Kids like that are better than those who always listen to you and do not have a mind of their own. Be grateful that you have smart children. Love will never fail, Fiona. Your kids would realise one day that you love them and do a lot for their own good. They will appreciate one day.
So, be strong, ok Fiona? I am here to support you.
ok, may b i m the odd 1 here. But not all men r like that... try talk 2 him n he'll understand.. ;p
hope u feeling better , not easy to be a good wife and good mum, at the same time make everyone happy ...!!
hi...Man is like that one lah... very unresponsive at times. They always think that woman are lazy (which is mostly not true at times). Just bear with him for awhile and do speak his language of love. All the best with your man.
Michelle's hubby
Hope you are well enuff to get thru that.
Come do this tag first.
dropping in to say hello to you and hope you are feeling okay by now.
take care.
my first time here, hope by the time u read this, things get better liao.
hahah my hubby also similar la. mine is a workoholic.. sigh and comes home and cuddles the remote control more than me.
Of course you'll be the PERFECT wife just as soon as he becomes the PERFECT husband!
Seriously, I think it helps if u lay down a few ground rules eg u need Sat morning to do the groceries, so he needs to look after the kids. If he's home at nite, he can help them with their baths etc. Some men just need to have a routine. I think they lack the DNA to be accomodating or flexible, or multi-tasking!
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